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How to Be a Successful Single Parent
Being a single parent is no easy task. In fact, being a single parent requires a certain amount of inner strength as you will be required to function as both a mother and a father. Nevertheless, with a few helpful hints, you can make the task of being a single parent after a divorce easier.
Now that you do not have your spouse in your life on a daily basis, you may find that you are responsible for a lot more than you previously handled. On top of handling your own finances, you will also be required to work, maintain the household and take care of the children. Further, with so many tasks, you may feel overwhelmed.
If you begin to feel overwhelmed by all of the responsibility that has suddenly been heaped upon you, it is time to sit down and make a list of your priorities. By prioritizing your responsibilities, you can minimize the stressful effect so many responsibilities might have on you.
When you prioritize your responsibilities, consider the immediacy of each of your responsibilities. For instance, instead of paying your bills when they arrive, why not schedule your bills so that you can spend one afternoon taking care of all the bills in one sitting. Or, if you prefer, begin bill management by using the Internet; this can help you cut back on the amount of extra commuting back and forth you have to do.
You may also want to consider delegating some of the household responsibilities to your older children. Such an action has a twofold benefit; first, by delegating some of the simple chores to your children, you can free up some of your time to take care of other things and your children will learn the importance of familial participation and responsibility.
No matter how many priorities you may set for yourself, your children will have to be placed at the top of the list. After a divorce, you children’s emotional stability may be a bit shaken and you will want to do everything you can to ensure that your children feel that things are going to get better for them.
In spending quality time with your children, you will lessen the damaging effect a divorce might have on them emotionally. Further, quality time spent with children is a sure sign that their parent still cares for them. Finally, quality time can bring you and your children even closer together; and feeling of closeness can help both you and your children heal from the aftermath brought on by a divorce.
Mind Your Manners
It is imperative, no matter how angry or bitter you may be, not to tear down you ex-spouse. Whether you are in earshot of your children or not, when you tear down your ex-spouse your children may feel that you are somehow angry with them too, even if you are not. After a divorce, children need to feel like they are wanted and loved by both parents and they also need to know that you and your ex-spouse will work out your differences for them.
In terms of minding your manners, you will also want to avoid berating your ex-in-laws. Regardless of the fact that you have divorced your spouse, your children will still maintain a close relationship with your ex-spouse’s family and, again, hurtful words and deeds can linger.
In short, being a single parent is a difficult task for anyone. Nevertheless, you can make certain that you are the best single parent you can possibly be by making your children feel secure in their new and unexpected change of environment. Finally, by setting priorities, spending time with your children, and remaining kind, you can easy some of the difficulties associated with single parenting.